A girl at my passed job casually shared a brilliant piece of information that really hit home for me. Here I have decided to do the world a favour and continue to share this secret, because it’s worth pure gold. If your interested continue on…I know I will forever have this in my pocket (and you can now too!);
“to get to the gist: it’s an easy way to observe and determine what in life you should or should not be doing”.
Living a life full of intent opens up your eyes to be self-aware of your surroundings, really being in the now and feeling every bit of everything you come across daily. Does this sound exhausting to you? Well, in actuality it could be just the opposite! By being self-aware of your energy and what your surroundings thus give you (or take away!) will allow you to realise that you feel energy, it consumes you, its around you all the time – you are energy. But are you aware of it? Are you really in-tune with it?
Sound wishy-washy to you? Continue on just a bit more…
Ok so, do me a favor and imagine a faucet (just play with me a second)… free flowing and openly pouring out water. Now imagine that faucet representing yourself and the water being your energy. Now, think of a moment in time you were doing something you loved, something you enjoy doing, something that brings you light and gives you energy in return. But really making you feel good. Now, was this fun loving activity something you could do for a long time, feel great doing it and most importantly making you feel so good doing it? Giving you what felt like an endless amount of energy?
Now, think of the opposite (it’s always good to thoroughly compare by also being honest about opposites to really seek the comparison)…imagine a faucet with a rusted handle struggling to release that water that is just yearning to flow out. That energy that is actually wasted from that water being blocked in the faucet is really just a shame. Now compare yourself to this faucet. For example: Are you mindlessly scrolling through social media thinking that you enjoy doing this? Are you hating tidying up the house? Answer this question first: does it give you energy or does it drain you? Do you feel worse or better after?
Take the social media example: maybe you are on social media with a purpose, to inspire yourself for recipes for the family or DIY crafts techniques to revamp your living room and feel motivated for a new project. Or you enjoy cleaning because it helps you clear your head and you do so with your headphones in and find a way to shake your romp while doing so (kudos!). ORRR…are you mindlessly looking at social media photos of people you barely even know (or not even at all) and feeling drained of your energy afterwards? Or cleaning up the house and cursing under your breath every dirty dust bunny you sweep away. Seek the difference here!
Now, open up your eyes… If I were you I’d make a list of the activities you imagined that gave you energy vrs. the activities that drain your energy. *TIP: Writing things down helps you not forget!
Then just stop (and reflect!) on this list. You don’t have to do anything just yet, but just be aware.
Getting personal: I will use myself as an example (feel free to skip over here!)…I am a mom with a young child who is still waking up in the night to eat (sometimes every couple of hours still!), yet I make it through the whole day not tired (my husband has no idea how I do it! Ok, Im secretly super woman 😉
Keep in mind, I do use time to put my feet up throughout the day to rest, stretch and take care of myself, and you can usually find me in bed by 10 pm but during the day I do not feel completely exhausted aka zombie mom…my child makes me happy and I would do anything for her and to keep her healthy and see her growing – she gives me back energy. Writing does the same thing for me! It helps me put my thoughts down (that are like wild horses most of the time!) and feel good about sharing my knowledge with the world.
Now the opposite. I used the example of social media because I was culprit to this scene – real stuff here. Mindlessly scrolling through social media feeling mixed sentiments such as jealousy, uselessness, boredom, roadblock, fatigue, even anger…just to name a few. So what did I do? I reacted. I understood I should just pick and choose more how I spend my time. For example, not wanting to just cut out social media completely, I first easily just cut out people on my list that brought up negative sentiments (I admit I’m an axe murderer when it comes to chopping away my social media list of people that don’t make me feel good anymore or better said – better said: “no longer on my life path”), or also I chose to predominantly use the social media setting I prefer, such as: I prefer Pinterest because of the content being more targeted towards my blog, wellness tips and recipes and home inspiration (my main loves right now! Check on my Pinterest here!).
So thats my little-big secret I’ve decided to share with you.
Here’s what to take away, it’s quite simple really.
- Do more with feeling
- Notice how you feel after activities
- Try to seek a balance between activities we ‘must’ do that may drain you, and ones that give in return. Prioritise your life!
What are some activities that make you feel great and give you energy? And ones that drain you? I’m so curious to hear from you and see how you inspire others! Please comment below.